INVESTMENT: PRIVATE CONSULTATIONS | TRANSITIONS: SUPER SINGLE TO ACTIVELY DATING; BREAK UP TO ACTIVELY DATING* | TIMEFRAME: 1 YR, 9 MOS
Hello! I’m Casey and I am 34 and single. Let’s just call it like it is, the singleness season can be rough!
Whether you were recently saved and have had to change every habit ever, or you grew up in church and have done it all right, yet still no man and no ring. I’ve had seasons where I’m running after Jesus like a boss and love being single, then other seasons (I seem to have more of these) where I feel totally lost, lonely, unseen and overlooked.
My friend found Emily from Instagram and encouraged me to reach out to Em to be my dating coach. After scrolling through her reel for an hour, it became clear to me that Emily did not have a perfect love story, but she had a real one that was anointed by God and she stayed the path to find her one love. I tend to gravitate towards people who have been through the fire and come out with a blazing testimony.
After my first Zoom session with Emily, I was in love with her. Emily, despite her busy life is always at rest in her spirit, which puts my spirit at rest. I’m a fast-talking New Yorker and for her to calm me down through a video, 1,000 miles away, can only be of God. I felt I could finally be honest with someone about my singleness and how hard it was. She’s a great listener but also is very honest about her own life and stories which creates an atmosphere of honesty and no secrets.
Emily challenged me to identify my “Top 5” and non-negotiables in a man and to always “be a delight”. My mother finds that hilarious since I’m not your typical “delightful” woman. Mom will call me sometimes and say, “Are you being a delight today”, to which I roll my eyes, put on some lip gloss and smile at the next cute guy to walk by. I guess “being a delight” works because within a few months, I went from no dates to going on dates almost weekly. Although they weren’t “the one” per se, I enjoyed the new confident me, being pursued, and honestly just getting back out there.
I went through a season where I thought I found “the one”, I did not use Emily in that season as I thought “I got this”. He ended up not being the one and it was a very painful healing process*. However, Emily must have discerned something was up because out of nowhere, she hunted me down and picked me back up when I was at my most broken. She reminded me of my “Top 5”, of my non-negotiables, that I unfortunately compromised. She reminded me to not sacrifice what I most truly desire for something that will fill a hole only for today.
I learned that we all need an accountability partner who lives their life completely rooted in the things of Christ. She reminds me constantly of the plan God has for my life and that there is a man out there whose purpose will align with my gifting and that we will one day shake the gates of hell, together.
I’m still single and in my mid-30s. Some days I wake up and feel like a queen, and other days my heart is broken and lonely, but Em has reminded me to stay the course, to not give up on His promises, because it is our faith that brings our hopes into reality and becomes the foundation needed to acquire the things we long for [Hebrews 11].